RHOD: WHERE’S COPENHAGEN?

Another week, another crazy episode of RHOD! This drama between D’Andra & LeeAnne is literally exhausting me.  I have a lot of feels on all the shit that went down, and although I truly try hard to stay neutral, it’s becoming increasingly more difficult with each episode.  It’s hard not to take sides when some of the arguments and fights are just so petty.  Or, even worse, really dark and deep.  Let’s go.

We start off at Cary’s house, where she’s making the girls gift baskets to deliver to them to invite them to go to Copenhagen. Her gift baskets include Danish Pastry, Danish Beer, and (gag) pickled herring?! Ugh it gives me the chills even looking at it through the TV screen.  I’m with Zuri – “disgusting”, LOL.  Cary has been practicing her Danish, and she writes “Join Me” in Danish on the cards she sends with the gift baskets.  It’s a cute idea, I’m all for a good gift basket.

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Steph is casually getting her hair done in the middle of the kitchen (Steph lives my dream life) and she’s chatting about her upcoming vow renewal with Travis. Travis planned the entire thing, and although Steph know it’s coming, the rest of the details are a surprise.  Super sweet.

The gift baskets are arriving one by one. Everyone is excited and enthusiastic about this trip – they show each girl FaceTiming w/Cary, and everyone is in to go to Copenhagen.  I am LOLing that everyone freaks out over the fish.  And my favorite response ever – “Where’s Copenhagen?” Love Steph.

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It’s time to go dress shopping! We’re with LeeAnne, Stephanie, and L’s friends Kim and Christina.  Stephanie was happy to be included, and she tells us she thinks it’s bullshit that Brandi thinks LeeAnne only wants to be friends with her to hurt Brandi.  I totally agree with that, I think LeeAnne and Steph have truly started over and have bonded.  I’m genuinely enjoying the newfound friendship between LeeAnne and Stephanie.  LeeAnne begins to try on dresses, and she tells us she wants a “basic & boring” dress. She really just means simple.  She looks gorgeous in all of the dresses she tries on.  In her confessional, LeeAnne tells us that she feels silly for being so giddy about getting married because of her age.  Girl, you should never feel silly for that!  This is a wonderful, magical, romantic time – you have every right to feel giddy! ❤

The girls are talking, and LeeAnne informs us that she did invite D’Andra, but she couldn’t go. Stephanie’s advice is really on point – she wants the two to talk it out, because they’re fighting over petty bullshit, and if they make up one day and D’Andra wasn’t at LeeAnne’s wedding, she could be regretful for not making amends and having her BFF miss out on important memories.  Stephanie compares it to her own drama she previously had with Brandi – she said she really regrets them not talking, because they both missed out on big things in the other’s life.  I agree with Steph.  Life is too short.  Stephanie also tells LeeAnne that she has definitely noticed a change in her.  Even when LeeAnne is put in a position where she could fly off the handle, Steph observes that she remains calm.  LeeAnne tells us that she thinks D’Andra doesn’t believe that she has really changed, she thinks it’s fake.  I don’t think I necessarily agree with that.  I think D’Andra and LeeAnne have been friends for so long, and D is upset at the way L is currently treating her – I don’t think this feud has anything to do with D not thinking L has changed in a positive way.

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We head over to the office, where D’Andra meets with Mama Dee. They briefly bring up the contract, and handing over the papers for D’Andra to take over the company, and then D’Andra brings up what’s been really bothering her.  She fills Mama Dee in on what happened at the cooking class, and Mama Dee immediately cuts her off – she thinks D’Andra should’ve put a stop to the conversation with Kameron & Jimmy, and told them that it wasn’t an appropriate time to talk right then and there, at a cooking lesson.  D’Andra agrees.  Mama Dee then fills D’Andra in on her conversation with LeeAnne – how she’s so concerned about D’Andra and Brandi always drinking.  D’Andra is (understandably) pissed off that LeeAnne would ever say to this her 77 year old Mother and make her worry about something that is simply not true.  D’Andra expresses that LeeAnne doesn’t actually believe she has a drinking problem, she just always has to get the last word in.  I agree with the first part of that – I don’t think LeeAnne honestly believes D’Andra or Brandi have an issue with drinking, or are alcoholics.  I think LeeAnne was hurt and threw that out there, and now she can’t come back from what she said.  D’Andra tells Mama Dee that LeeAnne and Kameron are now BFF’s and that their loyalty is to each other.  I love when Mama Dee tells her, “Let them go off and have their wonderful loyalty to each other then!”

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At the same time, LeeAnne is over at Kameron’s house, drinking rose water and gossiping. They start out innocently enough, talking about dress shopping.  Before I even get into this, I have to say one thing first: Why wasn’t Kameron invited dress shopping????? Does anyone else find this odd?? Anyway.  LeeAnne tells Kam that she invited D’Andra dress shopping, but that she was too busy to go.  She reads us D’Andra’s text in a super sarcastic tone, one that I do not believe for a second D’Andra intended when sending it.  (LeeAnne also fails to mention that she invited her the night before she planned on going.) Kameron has an over the top reaction, as usual.  “Who is too busy to go wedding dress shopping for their best friend?”  “It’s psycho.”  “Who is this person?” Jesus Christ, my patience is running so thin watching Kam bash D’Andra.  (Yes, I used Kam’s most hated word  – well, besides, twat LMAO – BASH.  Because I’m sorry, that’s what is happening here!  You’ve been constantly BASHING D’Andra and it’s not okay.)

We switch back and forth between Mama Dee and D’Andra, and LeeAnne and Kameron. Mama Dee is growing upset, because she doesn’t believe her daughter is an alcoholic either, and she has her daughters back 100%.  (Yaaaasss Mama Dee!!)

Kameron tells LeeAnne that at Jeremy’s event, D’Andra came for her “full throttle” – which is a huge exaggeration. She literally said she was upset and felt attacked.img_5078D’Andra tells Mama Dee what happened at the event with Kameron. Although I am clearly on D’Andra’s side, I don’t think either one of them are seeing what happened in a clear light.  I do think Kameron was out of line for getting pissed at D’Andra and storming off, but I don’t know if I would say she was like the exorcist and her head was spinning off.  I think sometimes when you’re actually in the situation, you see it differently than an outsider would.  To both girls, it was a much bigger altercation than it actually was.  D’Andra tells Mama Dee how Kam got upset when D’Andra mentioned Jimmy (though, she wasn’t actually talking poorly about Kam’s MIL) and how Kameron referred to Jimmy as the “Grand Dame” of Dallas.  I’m dying at Mama Dee’s priceless reaction this – “She is?”  D’Andra also tells Mama Dee that she feels as though LeeAnne and Kameron are being mean girls.  Mama Dee tells D’Andra that if she has to be mean, then she has to be mean.  Tell them off.  (I’m loving this side of Mama Dee, going into complete Mama Bear mode!)

img_5072LeeAnne brings up the Pajama Party for Hard Night Good Morning, which she had coordinated before “D’Andra betrayed her.” Also, another exaggeration here.  LeeAnne doesn’t want to go, but feels like she has to because essentially she set it up.  Kameron tells us she’s glad she’s not going, and I’m so annoyed with Kameron right now that I’m also glad she’s not going.  Take your negativity somewhere else, please.  Then they both start talking about the “Simmons name” and I’m so over it.  Please, can we get the fuck off of this topic?  Kameron tells us that D’Andra is on a self-destructive path and I’m basically screaming at the TV at this point.  Can you please give us an example of this, Kameron?  Because all I see is D’Andra living her life.  Like I’m so tired of this.

kam.jpgAlso, before I even move on to the next scene, I have to say this: Can someone please explain Kam’s logic to me? She’s so worried about how she is perceived in Dallas Society, yet she’s on a Bravo Reality TV Show.  (And I am NOT hating on Bravo, you all know how much I love Andy and I love all of the housewives, Pump Rules, ETC.  I’m just using this example to prove my point.)  I’m guessing that in Dallas Society it’s probably not proper to be on a reality show at all?  Also, what’s with the double standards?  How come when Brandi says twat you freak the fuck out, but when LeeAnne insinuates giving a blow job, you’re okay with it?  (Again – I don’t care that LeeAnne did that, at all.  It was funny.  Just proving my point about Kam and her double standards.)  Like why is that acceptable, but anything D or B do is not? It’s annoying to continuously listen to this bullshit.

img_5067It’s Pajama Party time! D’Andra has reformulated the Green Miracle product, and there is also a new night moisturizer coming out.  YAY D’Andra!  I’m over the top happy for her, she deserves it.  Everyone is dressed so cute in their PJ’s (or lingerie – Cary is smoking!) and we are celebrating Hard Night Good Morning.  LeeAnne expresses again how she doesn’t want to be there, and also says that D’Andra stabbed her in the back.  Again, I would say that’s an exaggeration.  I don’t see how D stabbed L in the back?

img_5052Everyone is arriving, and I have to say that Mama Dee in her leopard print is literally everything. She’s killing it.  Mama Dee tells Brandi and Cary and to watch out for her daughter in Copenhagen, and if she comes back upset everyone will wish they were dead, or something like that.  I literally LOLed at Cary’s face.  Mama Dee also speaks privately with Brandi and thanks her for being a good friend to D’Andra.  She confides in her that D’Andra has been extremely upset over LeeAnne and Kameron’s accusations, to the point that she’s losing sleep over it.  Brandi thinks that’s some things are not worth losing sleep over.  Preach, babe.

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img_5054D’Andra is talking with Cary, and she tells her she’s still upset at how Kameron acted at Jeremy’s event. She doesn’t understand why Kameron only focused on D’Andra saying she felt hurt by Jimmy, and not the fact that she felt hurt by her.  Cary doesn’t think Kam’s intentions were bad, but I disagree with this.  Cary expresses that she’s worried about Copenhagen, and D’Andra says she “doesn’t want to go” – which is unfair.  This is Cary’s trip.  D’Andra explains that she just doesn’t want to listen to the same bullshit, and she’s not going to take their shit anymore.  She says that they’ve awakened the dragon, and Cary says, “You can be a real bitch” which made me LOL because D’Andra agrees with her.  I understand Cary being somewhat annoyed that she felt like D was anticipating drama in Copenhagen, because like I said, this trip is for Cary – but I don’t think D’s intentions were bad, I think she’s so caught up in this whirlwind of accusations that she can’t focus on anything else.  She does tell Cary in the end that this trip is for her, and that they’re going to have a good time.

Inside, Mama Dee and LeeAnne are talking. LeeAnne says she loves D’Andra, and Mama Dee responds with, “And she loves you, too!”  LeeAnne then says, “She hurt me”, to which Mama Dee replies, “You’ve hurt her, too.”  Mama Dee starts saying how LeeAnne voiced her concerns to her at the cooking lesson about Brandi & D’Andra’s drinking, and then I’m completely shell shocked because LeeAnne literally turns her back to Mama Dee midsentence and starts talking to Cary!  This honestly doesn’t seem like something I think L would do – I wonder if the producers edited it this way? So shady.  I feel like if Mama Dee and LeeAnne had that conversation, Mama Dee may have been able to intervene and get D & L on speaking terms again.  I was disappointed.

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img_5061The girls are chatting outside, this time Brandi’s included, and D’Andra is filling her in on what has been going on. Mama Dee appears, and she tells Brandi how LeeAnne said she also had a drinking problem.  Brandi is upset for many reasons, and she has every right to be.  She’s worried that an accusation like that could affect the adoption process with Bruin.  It really is so fucked up for anyone to say something like that.

img_5069Brandi and D’Andra chat separately, and I really am loving their friendship as well. Brandi is proud of D’Andra for owning her truth and she fully supports her in being herself.  I think that’s all D’Andra needs at this point in her life – supportive people, who aren’t so worried about your last name and your dynasty and upsetting the socialites of Dallas.  It’s all just so ridiculous.  I’m glad D’Andra has Brandi.

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The vow renewal is here. Steph is looking absolutely gorgeous.  Brandi and Cary arrive, and Brandi can’t stay for the whole ceremony.  Steph is disappointed, but she doesn’t tell Brandi this because she doesn’t want her to feel guilty.  Cary is sick, but is still staying.  Of course the PJ Party gets brought up, and I’m LOLing at Brandi’s impression of Mama Dee.  Her impressions are so spot on.  Brandi tells Steph and Cary that this is why she can’t be friends with LeeAnne, and Steph says, “LeeAnne said that she never said that.”  I’m so glad Cary is here right now to chime in, because she is the one who heard it firsthand out of LeeAnne’s mouth.  She tells us, “I think Mama Dee is right,” and both girls look shocked.  Cary explains to them how LeeAnne originally said she was just concerned about drinking, but then at the event Kam was hosting she actually used the word alcoholic.

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Steph is clearly uncomfortable, and I understand that completely. It’s so hard to be friends with someone who your best friend doesn’t like.  And I get that mentality – when your BFF hates someone, you automatically hate them, too.  At the end of the day though, you can still be loyal and be friends with whoever you like.  I’ve learned the hard way myself how having this unwavering loyalty can backfire on you.  What happens when your BFF starts being friends with that person again, and you’re just there like….what now?  It’s a shitty situation to be in.  Steph can still be loyal to Brandi and be friends with LeeAnne.  Steph wants to confront LeeAnne, because she wants to know she actually said that, and unfortunately she thinks it’s going to have to happen in Copenhagen.  Cary looks so worried.

img_5049All drama aside, the actual ceremony was so gorgeous. I love that Travis flew in Steph’s original MOH.  I also love that she can still fit into her wedding dress from ten years ago!  She looked flawless, as usual.  Chance and Cruz were so cute, and I just love their family.  I also LOLed at Travis mentioning butt sex in front of Steph’s parents, and her Mother’s mortified expression, lmao.  It was such a nice, drama-free day.

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The girls are all packing now for their trip, and then we see them all heading to the airport. Cary, Steph, Kameron & Brandi are all flying first class, and LeeAnne and D’Andra are flying coach.  I already feel uncomfortable watching D’Andra and LeeAnne not speak at all.

Next week, shit looks like it’s about to hit the fan. Is it Wednesday yet!?

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Until next week….

xo

GETTING TO KNOW YOUR BLOGGER

I decided that for my first blog post, it makes sense to tell you a little bit about myself.  So here we go. 🙂

25 Facts About Me

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My name is Erica. I am 27 years old, and I was born & raised in the suburbs, about 15 minutes north of Boston.

I am a Medical Administrator. (At least, I think that’s what my title would be.)  I work for an orthopaedic spinal surgeon, in a private practice.  It’s a small office, and we are a very tight knit group.  I really enjoy it.  I book appointments, MRI’s, CT scans, etcetcetc.

I have always wanted to be a writer. I’ve been writing stories since I was a little girl.  Granted, I never seem to finish these stories.  Half way through, I tend to get bored and lose interest.  I always come up with a new, better sounding plot and characters.  My goal is to really sit down and focus on finishing some of my work.

You may be wondering why I am in the Medical field when writing is my passion. Two reasons – one, unless I become a J.K. Rowling overnight, I would not have true job security or financial stability.  Secondly, I like what I do.  I like to help people, I always have.

I started working straight out of high school. ( I was not the greatest student in the world.)  I got a job in childcare, and I ended up staying in that field for the next seven years.  I became teacher certified in the state of MA, and I eventually had my own classroom.  I truly loved it.  My co-teacher was one of my best friends.  I taught all age groups, from infants to Pre-K, but I realized that preschool was my favorite age.  I met so many wonderful families, and I bonded with so many children.  I felt as though I was making a difference in the world – teaching is extremely rewarding.  However, I reached a point towards the end of my seventh year teaching where I no longer looked forward to coming to work anymore.  It wasn’t the children, it was more how the childcare industry operates in general.  I was stressed out and became exhausted.  It was time for a change.

I think of 25 as my “quarter life crisis” year. I was miserable at work, my anxiety had reached an all time high, and I could not handle having any more panic attacks.  I decided to make a career change.  It was the scariest decision I ever made.  I felt like I had no other skills – childcare was the only thing I had ever known.  And now I was trying to branch out into an office.  I went on countless interviews.  For this, I am grateful, because it helped me realize that I wanted to pursue something in the medical field.  It also helped with my anxiety immensely.  I went from sometimes skipping interviews because I was so anxious, to being able to breeze through them.  Sure, I got nervous, but the more interviews I went on, the easier it became.  I think that’s why I got hired when I did – I finally had faith in myself.  I believed that I was worthy of the position, and it showed.

As I’ve just mentioned, I have anxiety. Diagnosed.  It’s not something I shared with anyone for a long time.  I was embarrassed about it.  Ashamed even.  I didn’t think anyone would understand.  My friends all thought I was such a jerk when I bailed on plans.  I would agree to do something, and then I would back out at the last minute.  It’s not because I didn’t want to go – yes, I wanted to celebrate so and so’s birthday in Boston, dammit! – but my anxiety controlled me.  The thought of big crowds terrified me.  I feared having a panic attack in public.  With the right help, I’ve been able to get my anxiety under control.  Don’t get me wrong, I still live with it every single day.  It’s just more manageable now.  It took me a long time to get to this point.  I talk myself through moments of panic now.  I tell people when I’m feeling a little anxious.  I’m not ashamed or embarrassed by it any longer.  I would make it go away forever, if I could, but I can’t.  So instead, I do whatever I can to ease my mind and calm my fears.

I am in a relationship. My amazing boyfriend’s name is Saul.  He’s so much more than my boyfriend, though.  He’s my best friend.  He’s my favorite person.  My life is 100% better because he is in it.  Saul is caring, he’s loving, he’s silly.  He’s also very logical.  (I, on the other hand, am not very logical.  I’m all emotions.)  There’s a Modern Family quote that I really like – I can’t remember the whole thing, but Cam says it about his relationship with Mitchell.   How the Dreamers and the Realists are good for each other, because the Dreamers help the Realists fly, and the Realists ground the Dreamers.  Something like that.  It reminds me of our relationship.  In October, it will be three years since our first date.  We live together, and it’s amazing.  It’s like having a sleepover with your best friend every single night.  I couldn’t be happier.

My birthday is December 10th, which makes me a Sagittarius.  (AKA, Worlds Greatest Astrological Sign.)  I’m really into astrology, I find it fascinating.  Anything mystical, spiritual, or otherworldly interests me.  Ghosts, psychics, mediums – I believe in it all.

My Mom, Greta, is my Best Friend. We’ve always been close (minus some of my bratty teenage years).  She’s amazing.  She is selfless, thoughtful, and generous.  She does so much for everyone – sometimes I wish she would just slow down, relax, and only worry about herself.  If anyone deserves relaxation, it’s Greta.  We always joke that she doesn’t know how to just “do nothing.”  She’s constantly on the go, even when she is exhausted.  She’s the only Mom I know waking up at 5AM to make sure she is on her treadmill.  I admire my mother so much.  She inspires me.  I hope that I can be even half of the woman and mother she is one day.

My family and friends mean the world to me. My Dad, Jim, is a total goofball.  He’s constantly making jokes and acting silly.  My Brother, James, and I have had our share of sibling rivalry.  We had a love/hate relationship for a long time.  I think because we are both older now, and growing up, we’ve been able to connect differently.  I love my brother, he’s really funny and he’s very fun to be around.  It also helps that we no longer live under the same roof! LOL.  Then there is my cousin, Melissa, who is basically my sister.  We have done everything together since she was born.  Mel is one of my best friends.  She’s so sweet and silly, and absolutely gorgeous.  We seriously buy each other “sister” cards on our birthdays.  Her boyfriend used to always tease us about it.  Mel is like my twin.  We have very similar personalities.  She understands me like no other – my anxiety, my sense of humor.  We just get each other, honestly.  My favorite childhood memories all involve Melissa and her two brothers, my cousins, Richie and Steve.  I wouldn’t trade those memories for the world.  (Hampton Days forever, Mel.)  Melissa is fabulous.  I love her a latte. (Insert silly Starbucks picture here.)  My friends are amazing friends as well.  I have a few true, they know who they are!

With that being said, my best friend, Jenalynn, get hers own spot. Jena has been through it all with me, through thick and thin, she’s always been my voice of reason.  Jen is beautiful, fun, and a great therapist.  She is also the best interior designer you will ever meet.  Seriously, her house should be featured in Architectural Digest, it’s fabulous. And her dog, Boo Johnson, is the cutest pup in the world.  I have no idea where I would be today without Jen.  Through all of the fake friends, crappy guys, and career changes, she has all been my constant.  We have fun doing anything together.  She is one of the only people I can travel with and not want to kill.  (She may not say the same about me, I’m a lot of work at the airport!)  We have inside jokes that even we don’t remember because they’re so ridiculous.  When you get myself, Jena & Amaritta together – forget it. Our silliness has no limits.  We used to drive Jena’s brother, Bobby, crazy.  We probably drove everyone around us crazy, actually.  It makes me smile just to think about it.  (Sorry God, seriously.)

I have only been out of the country twice. The first time I was 18, and I went to Canada with basically all of Stoneham High.  The second time was this past February, to Punta Cana.  It was pure paradise.  I want to travel more.  My travel wish list includes: Italy, Greece and Aruba.

I love love love to read. I will read anything.  Currently, mysteries are my favorite.  I just read The Luckiest Girl Alive, which was an amazing book by Jessica Knoll.  Nicholas Sparks used to be my favorite author, but I’m kind of over those mushy romance books (though Dear John will always be one of my favorites.) I also was on a huge vampire kick after I discovered my love for Twilight.  If you asked me right now what my all time favorite book was, I don’t think I could answer.  There are just so many to choose from!  Jackie Collins is/was (RIP) my favorite author ever.  I’ve read every single book she’s ever written, and Lucky Santangelo was one of my favorite literary characters.  I recently read Jane Eyre, which I surprisingly loved.  The Great Gatsby is another favorite.

I dye my hair very often. I’ve been brunette for a while now, but there was a time when I was platinum blonde.  I’ve contemplated going back to lighter hair, but I don’t think I will.  I change my mind too often.  I think I look better with darker hair, too.

I love to nap. I obviously don’t have time to nap during the week, because adulting gets in the way, but I would if I could.  Napping on a rainy day, or after a long beach day is amazing.

I love dogs, but I’m super allergic. It’s weird, because I never used to be.  I had a dog when I was a teenager (Lilly, my sis forever!) and I wasn’t allergic to her.  Now when I’m around dogs I break out in hives.  Taking Claritin helps.  I just really want a cute little Weiner dog, who I would name Ollie.  I follow this really cute dog, Ringo, on Instagram.  He’s from Spain.  I want a puppy who looks just like him.

Britney Spears is my favorite celebrity of all time. I’ve been obsessed since I met her at the Kiss 108 concert back in 1999.  She is such a beautiful person, inside and out.  She’s talented, she’s hot, and she’s a fabulous mama! I’m dying to go see her in Vegas.

I went to Nashville in 2013 with Jena, and I absolutely fell in love. Nashville is just so pretty – the houses in Belle Mead are literally breath taking.  It’s like a different world there, everyone is so friendly.  Nothing like Boston, that’s for sure.  I had a blast going to all of the bars on Broadway and listening to live country music.  It was magical.  (I sound so corny, but I’m so serious!) I would love to go back.  And soon.

You now know that I am a Britney fan, and a country music lover. Some of my other favorite artists are: Drake, Rihanna, Miranda Lambert, Selena Gomez.  I love Lana Del Rey.  Sometimes I think I relate to her on a spiritual level.

I get genuinely upset when/if I miss Jeopardy. (Saul and I do not have DVR, we live in the stone ages.)  I like watching it faithfully every night.  It’s more fun to watch it with someone, too.  No one really seems to like to watch it with me, though.  I like to keep score. 😛

Some other TV Shows/Movies I enjoy are: Pretty Little Liars, The Real Housewives (OC & Beverly Hills), Law & Order SVU. (Liv & Stabler forever.) Movies: Clueless, Mean Girls, Legally Blonde – your typical basic white girl movies.

I love the ocean. I may have been a mermaid in a past life.  I don’t care how cold the water is, I am going in, and I am dunking under.  It’s so refreshing!  It’s also very soothing.  I feel very peaceful and serene when I’m at the beach, watching the waves crash against the shore.  (Until I start burning like a Lobster, which always seems to happen, no matter how much SPF I use.)

I believe in the Law of Attraction. I love to make “Life Boards”, or Vision Boards, as other people call them.  I like to see what I want all mapped out in front of me.  I look back on past life boards I’ve made, and it’s funny, because a lot of the stuff on there has actually come true.  (Clearly, not everything, because I still do not have the body of Britney.)  Enough has happened though to make me believe that putting my goals and wants out in the Universe can actually work.