RHOD: OFF THE LEASH

Typically, I like to recap the episode, but this blog post is going to be a little bit different.  Most of the episode was fun and carefree, but then we dealt with D’Andra and LeeAnne’s friendship basically falling apart, and that’s what I’m going to focus on today.  Before I get started, though, I will say that Kam is a great host, Steph doing a hip hop class with her boys is so cute, and I’m so proud of Brandi for asking for help!  Also, side note, I felt like I related to Brooklyn on a spiritual level when she had a meltdown in the car because she felt overheated.  That’s literally me.  And Brandi’s reaction had me cracking up.  LOL, I love these girls.  Ok, here we go….

This week’s episode, Off the Leash, at first appeared to me as a “filler episode”. It came off originally as light and breezy.  It’s basically centered around Kameron putting together a “Painting Party”, where she brings all the girls together, as well as their children and their dogs, and everyone is going to paint their dogs.  Super cute and light, right?  Nope, I was totally wrong.

While most of the episode is light, there is nothing light and breezy about D’Andra and LeeAnne’s friendship, that continues to unravel more and more each week. Both girls are going through major moments in their life – D’Andra is dealing with the possibility of starting over with her business, and her relationship with her mother thus far has been shaky at best.  LeeAnne is planning a wedding, but she definitely has underlying fears about the marriage in general.  This is a time where both girls need each other, but instead of banding together, they are drifting further and further apart.

If you’ve been watching all season, you can see the slow, but obvious, descent of the friendship from the beginning. It makes me so sad!  These two were as thick as thieves.  Their relationship seemed rock solid to me.  D’Andra seemed to be the only one who was able to tell LeeAnne exactly how she felt – she definitely calls it like she sees it – and LeeAnne was okay with it.  It honestly reminded me of myself and my cousin, Mel’s, relationship.  We’re like sisters, we always have been.  I can be brutally honest to Melissa at times, and I know I have been in the past, in regards to relationships.  Mel was definitely not happy with me at the time, but I never for a second thought that by voicing my opinions she would potentially abandon our friendship.  Mel is always honest with me, too, she’s just nicer than I am about it.  Everyone has different communication styles.  Like I said, she’s my little sister.  Anything I’ve ever expressed to her was out of genuine concern and love, and that’s exactly what I take away from D’Andra’s conversations with LeeAnne.  Some may say that D’Andra is too aggressive when it comes to voicing her concerns about LeeAnne’s relationship, but I can relate to that.  I’ve been there before, and maybe the approach isn’t right, but the intent is always pure.  I’m fiercely protective of Melissa, and I just want what’s best for her.  This is how I see D’Andra – protective of her best friend, who is like a sister to her.  She doesn’t want to see her end up hurt.

LeeAnne expresses to Rich that she’s reached out D’Andra a few times after the pop up event, through text, but hasn’t heard anything back. Rich urges LeeAnne to call her – which I really am impressed by.  He’s right.  (I have a love/hate relationship with texting, but if you’re kind of “off” with someone, it’s probably best to call.)  LeeaAnne agrees, but D’Andra doesn’t answer.  LeeAnne is really upset, and doesn’t understand what’s going on.

Meanwhile, we learn from D’Andra that although LeeAnne apologized at the pop up event, D still isn’t really over everything. She just kind of needs space, and she admits that she hasn’t answered LeeAnne because she isn’t ready to talk yet.  Honestly, I am surprised that D’Andra tells us that she feels LeeAnne was being nefarious when she talked to Cary about D’s money situation.  I didn’t get that vibe at all from LeeAnne.  I think there is more going on behind the scenes that we don’t know about.

At the Painting Party, D’Andra’s plan is to ignore LeeAnne, which she does. This was upsetting to me at first, because it just seems cold and unlike D’Andra.  I understand you’re not really ready to talk yet, but I just hate that feeling of feeling uncomfortable, and left out in a way.  LeeAnne’s reaction to D’Andra’s silence was surprising to me too, though.  I know that she reached out to her already and didn’t hear back, so LeeAnne could’ve been put off by that, and then chose to not to approach her at Kam’s gathering because she could obviously feel the cold shoulder vibe she was getting.  I honestly think there is more to it then this though.  Something doesn’t feel right…this whole situation feels off, and I honestly think that there is way more to the story than the money thing/marriage thing.  I personally feel like if I knew my BFF was mad at me, and I’ve reached out, and we were at a public gathering, I would probably attempt to talk to her.  I know that not everyone would do what I would do, I just found it off that LeeAnne didn’t try.  (I know what you’re going to say; she already tried and got shut down, so why would she keep on trying?)  I just feel like if you were that confused about what you did wrong, or you already apologized and thought you had moved past it, wouldn’t you be like, “Hey, what’s up, why are you ignoring me, I thought we were cool?”  LeeAnne honestly could be totally innocent, I’m not saying that she is in the wrong.  I just think that there is something else going on, that’s all.

When D’Andra and LeeAnne do finally meet up, the day after the party, my suspicions are somewhat confirmed. Clearly, D’Andra feels as though LeeAnne isn’t being fully honest with her about her engagement with Rich.  Yes, I think D’Andra is being a little bit pushy –but it’s not coming from a negative place.  When she brings up the fact that she has heard rumors of infidelity, it all kind of clicks now.  We, the viewers, do not have the whole story.  I’m not sure we ever will?  Everyone reacts to situations differently, but LeeAnne’s reaction to D’Andra’s question is confusing to me.  I’m sorry – I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, and if one of my friends ever asked me if he was faithful, I would literally lose my shit.  I know my boyfriend is faithful.  I would be so offended.  And while LeeAnne seems pissed, she doesn’t seem offended to me.  If the accusation was so far from the truth, would you not be outraged?  LeeAnne doesn’t really meet D’Andra’s gaze when she is asked this, and her whole demeanor is a little bit bizarre to me.  Also, if you have to remember – D’Andra is LeeAnne’s BFF.  LeeAnne was D’Andras MOH at her wedding.  This isn’t just some random person asking you this – this is your best friend asking you, out of concern, because she has heard rumors.  D’Andra even asks LeeAnne if she wants her to back off and LeeAnne says “No, I just want you to check in on me.”  (Or something along those lines.)  What I’m gathering from this entire situation is that LeeAnne hasn’t been honest about her relationship and her relationship problems, and D’Andra knows this – which is why she is saying that LeeAnne is “deflecting” and talking shit about her.

I know I clearly sound like I’m Team D’Andra, but I’m not saying LeeAnne is wrong. She has every right to not share something personal about her relationship if she doesn’t want to.  That’s her choice.  I understand both sides.  I think I just relate to D’Andra more because I feel like I would do the same in her position, so I get where she’s coming from.

Next week looks crazy – both good and bad. I truly hope that D’Andra & LeeAnne can patch up their relationship, eventually.  Life is just too short.

Until next week….

RHOD: BABES IN BRANDILAND

Things are heating up in Dallas and I am not even the least bit surprised. After watching last weeks episode, I thought that the preview for this weeks episode looked intense, and I wasn’t wrong. Before I get into the recap, I have to say, Dallas really is so interesting on so many levels. We have some real, genuine friendships on this franchise, and you don’t always see that on the housewives. (I mean, look at OC. I love Gina & Emily as new additions, but none of the friendships seem genuine anymore. Heather Dubrow left, and the OC began to sink like The Titanic.) The dynamic of the friendships of the ladies is so interesting to me as well. Nothing is cut & dry or black & white. The friendships intertwine with each other, and they end up getting very tangled. It will be interesting to see how the rest of the season goes….

Ok, on to the recap!

We start off with Brandi going over to Stephanie’s house. Steph is planning a spa day so all the ladies can just chill after all of the emotional drama that was unleashed during Smashing Friendships. Steph is the perfect person to host a Spa Day – because her bathroom is literally a spa. I mean, I died. The fireplace, the beautiful couch with those gorgeous, fluffy throw pillows, that hot tub, complete with jets and a waterfall – I am literally dead. Oh I’m sorry, I forgot to mention the Steam Room, and the super futuristic toilet! So beyond, I am in love. Anyway, Steph wants this Spa Day to be perfect, so she and Brandi, as well as Steph’s assistant, Trey, are going to be auditioning male models for the part. This whole scene had me cracking up – I love Steph & Brandi’s friendship so much. They’re always a blast together and have so much fun. The guy who auditioned who had the baby Kangaroo with him – OMG! How cute was she!? LOL too funny. Steph’s reaction to the kangaroo was everything. The girls end up hiring everyone because they were all cute and nice. Love them!

LeeAnne is about to do a photo/video shoot for her new dress, which can be worn 175 ways. (Impressive!) She meets her stylist, Jeanette, and she’s getting her makeup done, when Kam comes in to meet her. LeeAnne wants to talk about the “Smash Party from Hell” and Kameron happily goes along. Hearing LeeAnne say that she thought D’Andra “going off” was a performance was hurtful. I didn’t expect that from her. D’Andra wasn’t acting, she was hurt. I do believe LeeAnne, however, when she said that she told Cary because she and Cary were working on a friendship, and D’Andra and Cary are already friends. I truly don’t think that there was any malicious intent in what was said. I find it interesting that Kameron believes Cary will take sides. Apparently she’s been holding a grudge since Beaver Creek, because she feels like Cary had her back one minute, and then switched to Stephanie’s side the next. I don’t think Cary was on any side, she was just being honest and calling it like she saw it. They talk about Brandi’s upcoming Trunk Show, and Kameron says she doesn’t want to go. LeeAnne convinces her that she should, which I liked.

We’re at the Brandiland Pop up Event! I’m so proud of Brandi. She created a clothing line that is lounge/resort wear, and everything is so cute. The girls begin to arrive. Cary and D’Andra arrive together, and I’m LOLing as Cary labels her purse a “she” and puts a raincoat on her. I mean, hey, if I owned a Birkin, I would put a raincoat on her, too. Have you ever seen the price of a Birkin!?

LeeAnne is being super shady in regards to Brandiland & she needs to cut it out. Let’s support each other!! The girls are all mingling, and Kameron decides that now would definitely be the best time to pull Cary aside to talk. You couldn’t have gone for coffee to do this? It’s Brandi’s day! Kam explains to Cary that she was hurt in Beaver Creek because she feels like she played both sides between herself and Stephanie. Cary responds, and Kam gets mad because Cary “pointed her finger” at her. Literally in the next breath Kam points a finger at Cary while trying to get her point across and I’m just like – ugh. This is why Cary said arguing with Kameron was exhausting. Cary tries to call Steph into the convo and Kam loses it and stomps away. Poor Steph is like WTF is going on? This was so unnecessary. How can you play both sides if you’re friends with both parties? It doesn’t make sense.

D’Andra and LeeAnne end up talking, but I’m not mad about this. One, because I desperately want them to make up, and two because this happened very naturally and wasn’t planned. D’Andra tells LeeAnne how she felt, and LeeAnne feels horrible. This is extremely confusing to me because of what’s happening in the confessionals and in present day, on twitter. We just heard LeeAnne tell Kam that she thought D’Andra was faking her reaction to the entire situation. They seem to make up, and then we cut to another confessional of D’Andra saying LeeAnne had “crocodile tears.” Okay, I’m clearly missing something here? Why aren’t they being honest with each other? Or did more happen that we, the viewers, don’t know about?

Kam and Cary start talking again, and Cary apologizes, but Kam just can’t let it go. Kam literally brings up Mexico (I’m dead) and how she felt like Cary didn’t have her back with the dildo thing, so Cary tells her that while they were in Beaver Creek Brandi & Steph were going to give her “stressticles” but Cary convinced them not to. This is sufficient enough evidence for Kam to believe Cary has her back, and they’re all good. They randomly bring this up to Brandi, and it’s obvious she’s pissed, and we will soon find out why.

Steph and LeeAnne are having their own private convo, and I truly love how Stephanie is giving LeeAnne a chance and wants to have a friendship with her. I feel like Steph is definitely coming into her own more, and she seems more confident and independent. She’s such a sweetheart. LeeAnne tells Steph she wants to get to know her better, and that Kameron does too. LeeAnne is going to plan a lunch for the three of them.

Everyone heads out, and it’s just Steph and Brandi. Steph instantly knows something is up with B, and she eventually tells us that she’s really upset about Cary telling Kameron that she convinced them not to give Kam the “stressticles” because it’s not true, she decided not to do it on her own. Brandi isn’t over the fact that Kameron thinks she’s a bad influence, and this is bothering her. She starts to cry, and Steph comforts her. Clearly this goes deeper than just Kameron & Cary, and Steph can see that, too. Steph and Brandi sit down and Steph tells her that she’s worried about her. Steph can read Brandi like a book – she was so spot on in regards to how Brandi was feeling. Brandi is seriously Super Mom and doesn’t like to ask for help because she sees it as a sign of failure. So not true! It’s impossible to do everything and be the best at it. It’s okay to ask for help. I got emotional just watching this scene, and I’m so glad that Brandi had Steph in that moment. Everyone needs a Stephanie Hollman type of friend in their life.

It’s Spa Day! Kameron and D’Andra are absent, so it just leaves the four other girls. They split into groups of two, so Steph decides she will get a massage with LeeAnne so Brandi and Cary can pair up and get mani’s and talk it out. Brandi does confront Cary – she says she felt like Cary was trying to make her look bad in front of Kameron. Cary apologizes and tells her that was not her intention. She also agrees with Brandi that it was her own decision not to give Kam the Stressticles, but that Cary also gave her two cents on it as well. She explains that she felt like she needed to defend herself to Kam, because Kam felt like she didn’t have her back. (Do you see what I’m saying about the intertwining friendships now?)

We go back and forth between LeeAnne & Stephanie, and Cary and Brandi. LeeAnne asks Steph what was going on between Kam, Brandi and Cary, and Steph briefly fills her in. LeeAnne doesn’t think Cary is “mutual.” In the other room, Brandi is telling Cary she doesn’t want Kameron to think she’s a bad influence, but she also feels like Kameron has different standards for certain people, which I definitely agree with. Meanwhile, LeeAnne is telling Steph that she thinks Brandi and Kameron need to talk. LeeAnne admits that Kameron accepts her, and she owns that she doesn’t have perfect etiquette. LeeAnne also thinks that Brandi judges Kameron, and not the other way around. Not sure how I feel about that. At the same time, Brandi tells Cary she doesn’t think Kameron has a voice of her own, and that she thinks LeeAnne is in her ear.

Yikes. Are you keeping up? I feel like I’m going on circles!!

Over at Kameron’s house, she’s taking to Court about the Global Pet Expo and Sparkle Dog, and I’m just so annoyed. Why is Court soooo unsupportive? It’s infuriating! I feel like he shoots down everything Kameron says and it’s frustrating to watch. Why don’t you want your wife to live her best life? I don’t get it.

What an episode! I will say that we totally did not have enough of D’Andra this time around, which I did not like. Next week looks interesting…..I’m trying to learn not to comment before the episode actually airs, because the producers typically throw me all off and I’m wrong in my assumptions. So my lips are sealed.

See you next week!

Vacation Recap

As you know,  I was off this past week from work.  I had such a nice, relaxing, fun week.  It was exactly what I needed.  Rest, relaxation, sun, and some adventure.  I couldn’t have asked for a better week!

 

North Conway

Saul & I went to North Conway on Monday, and stayed over for the night.  I know I mentioned this, and I also mentioned how we were staying at Merrill Farm Inn, which I thought looked “cute & cozy” after reading Google reviews.  For anyone considering a trip to North Conway, do not stay there!!  There was nothing cute and cozy about it.  It was super creepy, actually.  It was an old barn, and I’m pretty sure it was haunted.  When we checked in, the guy at the desk hands us over our key to room 223, and says, “There is something I need to tell you about this room.”  I looked at Saul, my eyes wide.  I honestly thought he was going to tell me someone was murdered in that room.  He didn’t.  But he did tell us that Room 223 had no windows, and if we wanted a room with windows it would be a hassle because they didn’t have any more rooms with king sized beds.  Um, really?  When I booked this room, do you think I would choose a windowless room?  If we were staying any more than one night, I would have demanded a new room, a discount, or I would have gone elsewhere.  But since we were only there for the night, I sucked it up.  The room bugged me out immediately.  I seriously felt like I was at the Hotel Cortez in American Horror Story.  I pictured hands coming up out of the bed at any given moment. Of course, Saul thought I was being dramatic, as usual.  But, I knew he felt the same way when we got back from dinner that night.  When we had arrived, it was like a ghost town.  When we got home from dinner, around 10:30 PM, there were lots of cars in the parking lot.  “I’m glad more people are here,” I said to Saul.  “It’s less creepy.”  Saul agreed, so I know he felt the same way.

Besides staying in a Haunted Barn though, I had a lot of fun in North Conway.  We went to Horsefeather’s for lunch, and then walked around and went to some of the little shops in the center.  I love those stores, they always have the cutest little trinkets.  Penny Lane’s Boutique is my favorite, they have everything.  Sister Crows Native American is also a really cool store.  They had very pretty home made dream catchers.  (I was too cheap to buy one, seeing that they one I loved was $26.  I’d rather make my own.)  But they had a lot of unique stuff, it was interesting.  For dinner, we went to Vito Marcello’s, which was amazing.  It’s a really cute restaurant, and they have wonderful Italian food.  They also make a fantastic espresso martini.

I did not go on the Conway Scenic Railroad, like I had thought I wanted to.  After being in the car for three hours, the last thing I wanted to do was hop on a train for another two hours.  I also did not really research my surroundings that well before we got there.  I had no idea that the White Mountain attraction area, where I had wanted to go, was an entire hour away from where I was staying.  So we decided against that, too.  We did do some exploring, though.  I’m not really a nature girl, but I will admit that it was very pretty.  Would I go back to North Conway?  Definitely in the winter.  I had a blast at Adventure Suites.  But for the summer, I would not.  I like Maine better!  I still had a fun time with Saully, though.

Nantasket Beach

I love Nantasket Beach.  Saul and I went on Wednesday.  Neither of us wanted to drive far, so Nantasket is perfect, because it’s only about 45 minutes away.  We tanned/swam all day.  I got burnt of course.  But it was really nice and relaxing.  I love the ocean.  I just feel so calm and serene when I’m there.

“For whatever we lose (like a you or a me),
It’s always our self we find in the sea.”
E.E. Cummings, 100 Selected Poems

 

 

Ogunquit Beach, Maine

I went to visit Patty in Ogunquit on Friday with Jena and Amaritta, which was a blast.  I hadn’t seen Patty in a while, so it was so nice to see her!  I missed her.  (Patty is Jena’s mom, FYI.)  I also met Patty’s boyfriend, JJ, which was really nice as well!  I got to see the motel they run, and it’s adorable.  Her house is adorable, too.  Patty and Jena need to start an interior decorating business together, they do such an amazing job!  We had brunch at Splash, and it was really relaxing sipping a Mimosa while overlooking the beach/ocean.  Jena got a Bloody Mary to cure her hangover, and Amaritta was “Tanned Girl Wasted” off of her spiked iced coffee.  (LOL, inside joke.) I really had such a great time.  It was the perfect beach day.  I love being with my girlfriends, we always have fun being so silly together.  I cannot wait to go back!

Splash

Now my vacation is slowly, but surely, coming to an end.  I’m not ready!  I want one more week.  I know I have to get back to reality though.  And I don’t think I could afford another week off – I spend way too much when I have so much free time on my hands.  In between my travels I obviously went shopping.  I always buy the most useless stuff at Target.  I browsed the Square One Mall one day (gross, I know), but I did get three dresses for $50, which is a steal.  And I can wear two of them to work/in the fall, so I’m okay with that purchase, it was worth it.  I’m also excited to get back to Weight Watchers.  This was a bad week eating wise, and I’m so ready to restart my healthy eating!  I also missed Kirsten so much! It was so weird not seeing her for a week! I can’t wait to catch up.

Hope you all had a lovely week! 

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